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https://plus.google.com/115154150787537419585 Christopher Stevens : Today is the day I’ve finally decided to give up... I have searched for a meaning, and a purpose...

Today is the day I’ve finally decided to give up...

I have searched for a meaning, and a purpose... and still have found nothing

I fail at what I want to do, so I am forced to conform

Society, if you are listening, this is my white flag waving in the air

No longer a flying banner of hope, but a reminder of despair

I can't keep living like this, it's done more hurt than help

All I’m doing is tearing myself apart

I would love to say I’ve tried, but I feel as if I never had the will to

I am the only one who I can honestly say I hate

I fail constantly and short moments are always short lived

I feel it now... the disease as it cripples me

Slowly but surely bringing me to my knees

For this is not like my other poems... This time it's different

It is not a cry for help nor a shimmering symbol of hope

But a smack as I hit the ground

I am sad to say I’ve finally fallen

That boy forever gone, any hopes for his safe return have been burned all to ashes

We had a good run my friend

But it seems we truly have come to an end

I was a boy not bested by a liar nor thief

But a boy bested by himself, my demons will soak up these tears forcing me to smile

And fake it just another day, I am truly convinced now that there is no hope

We live in a world ruled by overly large companies that might as well be viewed as gods

Just think about it, just for a moment or two, we are just dogs on a leash

They tell us to go to the store for our food we need to live, we run begging them

Feeding their greedy conscience and pockets with our pieces of paper

Perhaps we could say that their demons have also corrupted them too

Our world is run by money, and I can't wait to see it burn

For those of you just like me, for those of you which I refer to as "X"s 

Please tell me I am not alone, show each other that we are "One"

Give each other hope that maybe tomorrow just might be different

I always believed that together we could make a difference

I will tell you now, do not give up as I have, for we are not the diseased

Nor not the pure, but we are the dirty we are the filth, we are the "Fallen"

My friends you are just One X on the face of this world, but you are not alone

We are all pieces of something much bigger than individuals

The world is hurt, together we can fix it, however we can't fix this world until we can accept ourselves

Not just as individuals but as a whole, it's okay to be different, and I challenge you to be

It’s a long hard road my friend, but it is the one less traveled by

Who cares how odd you are, how ugly you think you look

Or even how stupid you think you are

Being different is what makes you all truly beautiful

I wait for the day when Love becomes more than just a word

Where a person’s way of life isn't categorized as name

Where we can learn to not only accept ourselves but each other as a whole

Where one mistake doesn't define who you are

When we come to the realization that mankind truly is a disease

If you've no understanding of what I’m talking about I challenge you to open your eyes to the world around you

It’s not that hard to see

So many people end their lives daily because they feel alone, ashamed, afraid, and I don't want that to be you

I often think about who some of these people might have been today: Amanda Todd, Tyler Clementi, Ryan Halligan, Jessica Logan, Rachael Neblett, Kenneth Weishuhn... and these are just a few

Some fought the same battle you and I are fighting right now... and most not much older

So never mind, why give up when you can keep fighting, if you’ve nothing to live for why quit, why not keep going... search for something to live for

I live for the hope that one day the girl that that boy so long ago promised to me will finally come and help to save me

That one day that boy will one day take his throne as he watches these demons fall back into their place no longer to keep control

What do you live for?

Why live and suffer when you can live and hope

There is no secret to life, in fact there's not even a point, and there never was

So instead of give up I will raise my flag higher than the rest, just to show the world that I am different because there's nothing to be ashamed of... and there never was

Be yourself for its okay to be different, and its okay to make mistakes, we all do it

if often think what I could've done to save these kids’ lives, just 5 minutes, I wish that I could bring them back just for 5 minutes, because 5 minutes can and does make a difference in saving a person's life

What would you have done? Think... would you be the one to laugh at them in the crowd? Would you be the one to ignore it all? Or would you make a difference?

What would you do? What would the real you do?

They didn't deserve the ending they got, and I would trade places with them in a heartbeat

They were no different than me or you. They could’ve been my friend and some days I wish they would’ve known me

My flag stands tall does yours?
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https://plus.google.com/106943772789297488113 TKG News LGBT : Honoring the Memory of Tyler Clementi - It’s been four and a half years since the world mourned the ...
Honoring the Memory of Tyler Clementi - It’s been four and a half years since the world mourned the death of Tyler Clementi, the Rutgers College freshman who took his http://ow.ly/2VfnoV
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https://plus.google.com/109588363361548851100 Gina Vivinetto :   "Tyler's Suite," an eight-movement musical work developed by Broadway legend Stephen Schwartz ("Wicked...
 
"Tyler's Suite," an eight-movement musical work developed by Broadway legend Stephen Schwartz ("Wicked," "Pippin"), happens this Saturday in LA. It honors the memory of Tyler Clementi, the young Rutgers freshman who took his own life after his dorm roommate videotaped him and another man being intimate and then posted footage on social media.
I was able to talk to Tyler's mom for this piece and hear about the important work she's doing in the Tyler Clementi Foundation.

http://www.advocate.com/arts-entertainment/music/2015/02/27/honoring-memory-tyler-clementi
Honoring the Memory of Tyler Clementi
Jane Clementi speaks to The Advocate about this Saturday's musical tribute to her son.
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https://plus.google.com/117103297929468296393 North America Outgames : #LGBTAdvocate Honoring the Memory of Tyler Clementi - Jane Clementi speaks to The Advocate about this...
#LGBTAdvocate Honoring the Memory of Tyler Clementi - Jane Clementi speaks to The Advocate about this Saturday's musical tribute to her son. read more http://ow.ly/2VerpW
Honoring the Memory of Tyler Clementi
Jane Clementi speaks to The Advocate about this Saturday's musical tribute to her son.
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https://plus.google.com/101868197261637075452 nadia blaze : September's Children - Against Bully Did you still remember 'bout September's Children? Remember this...
September's Children - Against Bully
Did you still remember 'bout September's Children? Remember this names? : -Billy Lucas, 15 -Cody J. Barker, 17. -Seth Walsh, 13. -Tyler Clementi, 18 -Asher Brown, 13 -Harrison Chase Brown, 15 -Raymond Chase, 19 -Felix Sacco, 17 -Caleb Nolt, 14 Remember thei...
September's Children - Against Bully
Did you still remember 'bout September's Children? Remember this names? : -Billy Lucas, 15 -Cody J. Barker, 17. -Seth Walsh, 13. -Tyler Clementi, 18 -Asher Brown, 13 -Harrison Chase Brown, 15 -Raymond Chase, 19 -Feli...
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https://plus.google.com/116735388573999337785 Brent オオカミ : "Make It Stop (September's Children)" Woah, woah. Bang, bang go the coffin nails, like a breath exhaled...
"Make It Stop (September's Children)"

Woah, woah.

Bang, bang go the coffin nails, like a breath exhaled,
Then gone forever.
It seems like just yesterday, how did I miss the red flags raised?
Think back to the days we laughed.
We braved these bitter storms together.
Brought to his knees he cried,
But on his feet he died.

What God would damn a heart?
And what God drove us apart?
What God could?

Make it stop.
Let this end.
Eighteen years pushed to the ledge.
It's come to this,
A weightless step.
On the way down singing,
Woah, woah.

Bang, bang from the closet walls,
The schoolhouse halls,
The shotgun's loaded.
Push me and I'll push back.
I'm done asking, I demand.

From a nation under God,
I feel its love like a cattle prod.
Born free, but still they hate.
Born me, no I can't change.

It's always darkest just before the dawn.
So stay awake with me, let's prove them wrong.

Make it stop.
Let this end,
Eighteen years pushed to the ledge.
It's come to this,
A weightless step.
On the way down singing,
Woah, woah.

The cold river washed him away,
But how could we forget?
The gatherings hold candles, but not their tongues.

And too much blood has flown from the wrists,
Of the children shamed for those they chose to kiss.
Who will rise to stop the blood?

We're calling for,
Insisting on, a different beat, yeah.
A brand new song.

Whoa, whoa [x3]
(Tyler Clementi, age 18.
Billy Lucas, age 15.
Harrison Chase Brown, age 15
Cody J. Barker, age 17
Seth Walsh, age 13.)

Make it stop,
Let this end.
This life chose me, I'm not lost in sin.
But proud I stand of who I am,
I plan to go on living.

Make it stop,
Let this end,
All these years pushed to the ledge,
But proud I stand, of who I am,
I plan to go on living
Watch the video: Rise Against - Make It Stop (September's Children)
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Music video by Rise Against performing Make It Stop (September's Children). (C) 2011 DGC Records Buy Now! http://bit.ly/uPHJgY
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https://plus.google.com/116129549405404208462 GayJobs : Tyler Clementi Foundation – New York, NY Tyler Clementi Foundation (TCF), a small, and growing, national...
Tyler Clementi Foundation – New York, NY

Tyler Clementi Foundation (TCF), a small, and growing, national nonprofit organization in New York City seeks an accomplished and enterprising fundraising professional. Reporting to the Executive Director, the Development Director will lead a rapidly scaling and sustainable fundraising program. TCF seeks an coordinated, strategic individual with compelling presentation skills and broad-based development expertise.

#lgbtjobs #gayjobs  
Development Director Tyler Clementi Foundation
Development Director Tyler Clementi Foundation - New York, NY - responsible for increased and new major gifts and the on-going cultivation of annual donors
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https://plus.google.com/110295065759323236414 Gay Men's Chorus of Los Angeles : You’re invited to a one night only musical event. On February 28, GMCLA will debut its new Ambassador...
You’re invited to a one night only musical event.

On February 28, GMCLA will debut its new Ambassador Chorus, joined by very special guests, Well-Strung, a talented quartet of men who sing and play string instruments.

Heartstrings will feature the LA premiere of Tyler’s Suite, co-commissioned by GMCLA and celebrating the life of Tyler Clementi.

#gmcla   #heartstrings  
Heartstrings | GMCLA - Gay Men's Chorus of Los Angeles

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https://plus.google.com/109134949739499213003 Michael Myers : Monica Lewinsky Gives Her First Public Speech In 16 Years, And My Heart Is In My Throat - http://pin...
Monica Lewinsky Gives Her First Public Speech In 16 Years, And My Heart Is In My Throat - http://pinnit.appmyxer.com/pinnit-pics/monica-lewinsky-gives-her-first-public-speech-in-16-years-and-my-heart-is-in-my-throat/ -
Don't look now, but Monica Lewinsky is kind of a badass.






So yeah, that's what guts looks like. And pro-tip: bullying, shaming and blaming the victim? Always wrong.



Monica was compelled to break her long silence because of her work with the Tyler Clementi Foundation.

Visit http://pinnit.appmyxer.com to read more on this topic
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https://plus.google.com/112864223929515842116 soymiguelalejandro23 :   Re: Whitney Houston, Addiction, Pain & Mental Illness: My Reflections. By: soymiguelalejandro23  #...
 
Re: Whitney Houston, Addiction, Pain & Mental Illness: My Reflections.
By: soymiguelalejandro23  #WhitneyHouston

I watched the Movie "Whitney" and was so moved by her personal struggles as they were portrayed in the film that many of us have only heard about or have seen glimpses of in the media. I thought back to the very first day I heard her voice. It was so absolutely "pitch perfect"
I thought it was computer generated. From that point I allowed my mind to travel through time and recall all of the great movies, music videos and concerts she has done. I then began to think of the events that were reported in the news that allegedly caused her to leave this world way too soon.

Some people are tempted to think that those who are beautiful, rich or handsome couldn't possibly be living in pain and have issues with  addiction. They can't seem to grasp that just because a person may be famous they can actually be very miserable inside.

Well, I am certainly not rich or famous but I do know that the issues of pain, hurt and addiction can happen to anyone. Life does not discriminate. What I also know personally concerning addiction is that it usually operates via the deep seated pain that we have in our lives that we either don't know how to heal or even acknowledge. By placing ourselves under the influence of substances and or participating in harmful or self harmful activities, (sometimes the activity may not  seem harmful), however, we are often using these things to distract ourselves from our pain and unresolved issues.

By going this route it will ultimately lead us to a life that is filled with even more pain and sorrow in the end. That is not unless we can somehow find the strength to tell ourselves the truth about our experience and reach out for help.

For a good number of those who have hurtful issues in their lives that seek to escape them via different vices no matter whether it's through; alcohol, drugs, food, sex, gambling or even work - there is often lying in the shadows of these addictions the two edged sword of mental illness.

The Mental Illness may be Depression, Social Anxiety Disorder, Schizophrenia, Bi Polar Disorder, Border line Personality Disorder, Agoraphobia, Schizoaffective Disorder, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder etc. It really doesn't matter which mental illness it is as there are many different psychiatric conditions that can adversely affect people. Without addressing the real cause of the pain in our lives as well the emotional disturbances we may be dealing with true healing and wellness can never come.

When it comes to issues such as these it really doesn't matter about your status in life, where you live, where you work, how much you earn, who you are married to or what type of car you drive - none of these things can address the devastation of carrying the hurt from past abuses.  When we try to fill in these empty spaces with artificial fillers, (any thing that distracts us from what the real problem is), over time things will only get worse. When we try and deny to ourselves that we are feeling bad, empty, depressed, worthless or hopeless and go as if nothing is wrong we actually make it just that much more difficult to break out of these negative patterns and emotions.

I spent years drinking and over eating trying to drown out the pain I was living in. I thought, "If I just ignore it - it will eventually go away".
For a time this seemed to work. I forgot about the abuse and neglect I suffered at the hands of my parents. I engaged myself in a lot of activities that although they didn't necessarily seem harmful they didn't allow me the opportunity to truly reflect on what happened to me so that I could in turn OWN it and heal it.

My denial of the pain I was in deepened even more as I totally repressed the memories of the men who hurt me sexually during my early teen age years. For many years I forgot that it even happened. However, when we do this life has a way of getting our attention in a manner that we cannot deny.

Speaking of pain,abuse and addiction I remember the day Whitney died and how hurt I was. I remember when Phyllis Hyman died and going numb. I remember when Michael Jackson passed and feeling completely devastated.  I remember many more people such as; Robin Williams, Joshua Marks, Tyler Clementi, Chukwudi Onyenwe, Jenol Sealy and many others. All of whom suffered from some form of mental disability or illness and at least in a couple of cases some form of substance abuse and addiction as well. Just think about how different the outcomes could have been for these dearly beloved if they could have just gotten the help and support they really needed and deserved. 

We may be tempted to say to ourselves regarding our own situations, "Oh it's gonna get better". However, unless you are willing to do the work - on yourself  - by telling yourself the absolute truth no matter how hurtful it may be concerning how you really feel and what it is that you really want for your life it's never going to happen. Talking about and OWNING the things that trouble you the most with a close and trusted friend as well as a professional therapist are both great starts towards healing. Staying in denial to the pain you feel is not.

Many addictions over time and with professional help can be broken. As it pertains to mental illness we can learn ways to manage them and live better lives over time with professional help as well.  I remember  an interview Bobby Brown (the former husband of Whitney Houston)  gave regarding addiction. He said something to the effect that sometimes it's hard to get away (from addiction/ major life challenges) when you have a BEAR CHASING YOU. Sometimes the pain and addictions can feel just that intense.

I am grateful that I have long since kicked my addiction to alcohol and now have absolutely no taste for it anymore. My food addiction is just about over as well. I no longer have the urge to over eat / eat emotionally. However, I yet have my ongoing struggles with the Depression that is a part of my Mental Health diagnosis of Schizoaffective Disorder Bi Polar Type II / PTSD / Generalized Anxiety Disorder.  

In order to not let this my psychiatric disability get the best of me I have to be sure not to allow myself to become overwhelmed and stressed out. One way I do this is by choosing to NOT entertain negative thoughts for extended periods of time or even becoming too physically exhausted as well. For me any of these things can trigger a very intense to severe extended episode of depression which in turn can sometimes lead to suicidal thoughts.
 
Any situation or condition that we have no matter what it is must be managed. We must learn how to help ourselves as well as how to ask for help when it comes to situations that are too much for us to bear alone.                                 

Getting past the fear of facing the fact that we may have an addiction, a mental impairment or a hurt that we just can't seem to get over can be extremely challenging. As we learn ways to move forward from these issues that leave us feeling stuck we will find there is a whole new world of support right there waiting for us. The funny thing about it is the support was actually there all the time. Rip Nippy and to all those we've lost. 

Please share this blog with friends and contemporaries alike.
(A very special thanks to Mr. Robert Wesley Branch, Dr. Iyanla Vanzant
& Mr. Shawn Maxam - My Personal Inspirational Dream Team!
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Re: Whitney Houston, Addiction, Pain & Mental Illness: My Reflections.
By: soymiguelalejandro23  #WhitneyHouston

I watched the Movie "Whitney" and was so moved by her personal struggles as they were portrayed in the film that many of us have only heard about or have seen glimpses of in the media. I thought back to the very first day I heard her voice. It was so absolutely "pitch perfect"
I thought it was computer generated. From that point I allowed my mind to move travel through time and recall all of the great movies, music videos and concerts she has done. I then began to think of the events that were reported in the news that allegedly caused her to leave this world way too soon.

Some people are tempted to think that those who are beautiful, rich or handsome couldn't possibly be living in pain and have issues with  addiction. They can't seem to grasp that just because a person may be famous they can actually be very miserable inside.

Well, I am certainly not rich or famous but I do know that the issues of pain, hurt and addiction can happen to anyone. Life does not discriminate. What I also know personally concerning addiction is that it usually operates via the deep seated pain that we have in our lives that we either don't know how to heal or even acknowledge. By placing ourselves under the influence of substances and or participating in harmful or self harmful activities (sometimes the activity may not  seem harmful) we are often using these things to distract ourselves from our pain and unresolved issues.

By going this route it will ultimately lead us to a life that is filled with even more pain and sorrow in the end. That is not unless we can somehow find the strength to tell ourselves the truth about our experience and reach out for help.

For a good number of those who have hurtful issues in their lives that seek to escape them via different vices no matter whether it's through; alcohol, drugs, food, sex, gambling or even work - there is often lying in the shadows of these addictions the two edged sword of mental illness.

The Mental Illness may be Depression, Social Anxiety Disorder, Schizophrenia, Bi Polar Disorder, Border line Personality Disorder, Agoraphobia, Schizoaffective Disorder, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder etc. It really doesn't matter which mental illness it is as there are many different psychiatric conditions that can adversely affect people. Without addressing the real cause of the pain in our lives as well the emotional disturbances we may be dealing with true healing and wellness can never come.

When it comes to issues such as these it really doesn't matter about your status in life, where you live, where you work, how much you earn, who you are married to or what type of car you drive - none of these thing can address the devastation of carrying the hurt from past abuses.  When we try to fill in these empty spaces with artificial fillers (any thing that distracts us from what the real problem is) things over time will only get worse. When we try and deny to ourselves that we are feeling bad, empty, depressed, worthless or hopeless and go as if nothing is wrong we actually make it just that much more difficult to break out of these negative patterns and emotions.

I spent years drinking and over eating trying to drown out the pain I was living in. I thought, "If I just ignore it - it will eventually go away".
For a time this seemed to work. I forgot about the abuse and neglect I suffered at the hands of my parents. I engaged myself in a lot of activities that although they didn't seem to be necessarily harmful they didn't allow me the opportunity to truly reflect on what happened to me so that I could in turn OWN it and heal it.

My denial of the pain I was in deepened even more as I totally repressed the memories of the men who hurt me sexually during my early teen age years. For years I forgot that it even happened. However, when we do this life has a way of getting our attention in a manner that we cannot deny.

Speaking of pain,abuse and addiction I remember the day Whitney died and how hurt I was. I remember when Phyllis Hyman died and going numb. I remember when Michael Jackson passed and feeling completely devastated.  I remember many more people such as; Robin Williams, Joshua Marks, Tyler Clementi, Chukwudi Onyenwe, Jenol Sealy and many others. All of whom suffered from some form of mental disability or illness and at least in a couple of cases some form of substance abuse and addiction as well. Just think about how different could the outcomes have been for these dearly beloved if they could have just gotten the help and support they really needed and deserved. 

We may be tempted to say to ourselves regarding our own situations, "Oh it's gonna get better". However, unless you are willing to do the work - on yourself  - by telling yourself the absolute truth no matter how hurtful it may be concerning how you really feel and what it is that you really want for your life it's never going to happen. Talking about and OWNING the things that trouble you the most with a close and trusted friend as well as a professional therapist are both great starts towards healing. Staying in denial to the pain you feel is not.

Many addictions over time and with professional help can be broken. As it pertains to mental illness we can learn ways to manage them and live better lives over time with professional help as well.  I remember  an interview Bobby Brown (the former husband of Whitney Houston)  gave regarding addiction. He said something to the effect that sometimes it's hard to get away (from addiction/ major life challenges) when you have a BEAR CHASING YOU. Sometimes the pain and addictions can feel just that intense.

Although I have long since kicked my addiction to alcohol and have absolutely no taste for it anymore. My battle with food addiction is just about over as well. I no longer have the urge to over eat / eat emotionally. However, I yet have my ongoing struggles with the Depression that is a part of my Mental Health diagnosis.

In order to not let this my psychiatric disability get the best of me I have to be sure not to allow myself to become overwhelmed and stressed out. One way I do this is by choosing to NOT entertain negative thoughts for extended periods of time or even becoming too physically exhausted as well. For me any of these things can trigger a very intense to severe extended episode of depression which in turn can sometimes lead to suicidal thoughts.
 
Any situation or condition that we have no matter what it is must be managed. We must learn how to help ourselves as well as how to ask for help when it comes to situations that are too much for us to bear alone.                                 

Getting past the fear of facing the fact that may have an addiction, a mental impairment or a hurt that we just can't seem to get over can be extremely challenging. As we learn ways to move forward from these issues that leave us feeling stuck we will find there is a whole new world of support right there waiting for us. The funny thing about it is the support was actually there all the time. Rip Nippy and to all those we've lost. 

Please share this blog with friends and contemporaries alike.
(A very special thanks to Mr. Robert Wesley Branch, Dr. Iyanla Vanzant
& Mr. Shawn Maxam - My Personal Inspirational Dream Team!
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Re: Whitney Houston, Addiction, Pain & Mental Illness: My Reflections.
By: soymiguelalejandro23  #WhitneyHouston

I watched the Movie "Whitney" and was so moved by her personal struggles as they were portrayed in the film that many of us have only heard about or have seen glimpses of in the media. I thought back to the very first day I heard her voice. It was so absolutely "pitch perfect"
I thought it was computer generated. From that point I allowed my mind to move travel through time and recall all of the great movies, music videos and concerts she has done. I then began to think of the events that were reported in the news that allegedly caused her to leave this world way too soon.

Some people are tempted to think that those who are beautiful, rich or handsome couldn't possibly be living in pain and have issues with  addiction. They can't seem to grasp that just because a person may be famous they can actually be very miserable inside.

Well, I am certainly not rich or famous but I do know that the issues of pain, hurt and addiction can happen to anyone. Life does not discriminate. What I also know personally concerning addiction is that it usually operates via the deep seated pain that we have in our lives that we either don't know how to heal or even acknowledge. By placing ourselves under the influence of substances and or participating in harmful or self harmful activities (sometimes the activity may not  seem harmful) we are often using these things to distract ourselves from our pain and unresolved issues.

By going this route it will ultimately lead us to a life that is filled with even more pain and sorrow in the end. That is not unless we can somehow find the strength to tell ourselves the truth about our experience and reach out for help.

For a good number of those who have hurtful issues in their lives that seek to escape them via different vices no matter whether it's through; alcohol, drugs, food, sex, gambling or even work - there is often lying in the shadows of these addictions the two edged sword of mental illness.

The Mental Illness may be Depression, Social Anxiety Disorder, Schizophrenia, Bi Polar Disorder, Border line Personality Disorder, Agoraphobia, Schizoaffective Disorder, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder etc. It really doesn't matter which mental illness it is as there are many different psychiatric conditions that can adversely affect people. Without addressing the real cause of the pain in our lives as well the emotional disturbances we may be dealing with true healing and wellness can never come.

When it comes to issues such as these it really doesn't matter about your status in life, where you live, where you work, how much you earn, who you are married to or what type of car you drive - none of these thing can address the devastation of carrying the hurt from past abuses.  When we try to fill in these empty spaces with artificial fillers (any thing that distracts us from what the real problem is) things over time will only get worse. When we try and deny to ourselves that we are feeling bad, empty, depressed, worthless or hopeless and go as if nothing is wrong we actually make it just that much more difficult to break out of these negative patterns and emotions.

I spent years drinking and over eating trying to drown out the pain I was living in. I thought, "If I just ignore it - it will eventually go away".
For a time this seemed to work. I forgot about the abuse and neglect I suffered at the hands of my parents. I engaged myself in a lot of activities that although they didn't seem to be necessarily harmful they didn't allow me the opportunity to truly reflect on what happened to me so that I could in turn OWN it and heal it.

My denial of the pain I was in deepened even more as I totally repressed the memories of the men who hurt me sexually during my early teen age years. For years I forgot that it even happened. However, when we do this life has a way of getting our attention in a manner that we cannot deny.

Speaking of pain,abuse and addiction I remember the day Whitney died and how hurt I was. I remember when Phyllis Hyman died and going numb. I remember when Michael Jackson passed and feeling completely devastated.  I remember many more people such as; Robin Williams, Joshua Marks, Tyler Clementi, Chukwudi Onyenwe, Jenol Sealy and many others. All of whom suffered from some form of mental disability or illness and at least in a couple of cases some form of substance abuse and addiction as well. Just think about how different could the outcomes have been for these dearly beloved if they could have just gotten the help and support they really needed and deserved. 

We may be tempted to say to ourselves regarding our own situations, "Oh it's gonna get better". However, unless you are willing to do the work - on yourself  - by telling yourself the absolute truth no matter how hurtful it may be concerning how you really feel and what it is that you really want for your life it's never going to happen. Talking about and OWNING the things that trouble you the most with a close and trusted friend as well as a professional therapist are both great starts towards healing. Staying in denial to the pain you feel is not.

Many addictions over time and with professional help can be broken. As it pertains to mental illness we can learn ways to manage them and live better lives over time with professional help as well.  I remember  an interview Bobby Brown (the former husband of Whitney Houston)  gave regarding addiction. He said something to the effect that sometimes it's hard to get away (from addiction/ major life challenges) when you have a BEAR CHASING YOU. Sometimes the pain and addictions can feel just that intense.

Although I have long since kicked my addiction to alcohol and have absolutely no taste for it anymore. My battle with food addiction is just about over as well. I no longer have the urge to over eat / eat emotionally. However, I yet have my ongoing struggles with the Depression that is a part of my Mental Health diagnosis.

In order to not let this my psychiatric disability get the best of me I have to be sure not to allow myself to become overwhelmed and stressed out. One way I do this is by choosing to NOT entertain negative thoughts for extended periods of time or even becoming too physically exhausted as well. For me any of these things can trigger a very intense to severe extended episode of depression which in turn can sometimes lead to suicidal thoughts.
 
Any situation or condition that we have no matter what it is must be managed. We must learn how to help ourselves as well as how to ask for help when it comes to situations that are too much for us to bear alone.                                 

Getting past the fear of facing the fact that may have an addiction, a mental impairment or a hurt that we just can't seem to get over can be extremely challenging. As we learn ways to move forward from these issues that leave us feeling stuck we will find there is a whole new world of support right there waiting for us. The funny thing about it is the support was actually there all the time. Rip Nippy and to all those we've lost. 

Please share this blog with friends and contemporaries alike.
(A very special thanks to Mr. Robert Wesley Branch, Dr. Iyanla Vanzant
& Mr. Shawn Maxam - My Personal Inspirational Dream Team!
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--Australia, QLD: Labor would re-instate civil unions if elected
--Austria: Thousands attend kiss-in protest against cafe
--Cameroon: Priest arrested for being gay
--Ireland: Legislature must pass bill before referendum date can be set
--Italy: Milan's mayor may face criminal charges for recognizing same sex weddings
--Sri Lanka: LGBT group hopes new government is friendlier to LGBT rights
--UK: NHS will no longer refer gays and lesbians to "cure" therapy
--UK: Officer comes out publicly as transgender
--UK: First same sex pagan wedding
--USA: Ted Olson took on Tony Perkins on Fox
--USA: Precious Director says homophobia rampant in black community
--USA: Tyler Clementi's mom offers wisdom to Leelah Alcorn's parents
--USA: Bill Maher asks if we've reached the "final frontier" on LGBT rights
--USA: 20/20 features transgender parents
--USA: Rachael Maddow discusses Supreme possibilities
--USA: Lisa Keen looks at how the Court asked its questions
--USA: Ruling could give GOP political cover on marriage equality
--Androgynous model Dylan Stephens graces wedding cover
--USA, CA: SDSU transgender harassment case profiled
--USA, LA: What happens next to state's lawsuit?
--ISA, OK: 3200 marriage licenses issued, many along TX border
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--Australia, QLD: Labor would re-instate civil unions if elected
--Austria: Thousands attend kiss-in protest against cafe
--Cameroon: Priest arrested for being gay
--Ireland: Legislature must pass bill before referendum date can be set
--Italy: Milan's mayor may face criminal charges for recognizing same sex weddings
--Sri Lanka: LGBT group hopes new government is friendlier to LGBT rights
--UK: NHS will no longer refer gays and lesbians to "cure" therapy
--UK: Officer comes out publicly as transgender
--UK: First same sex pagan wedding
--USA: Ted Olson took on Tony Perkins on Fox
--USA: Precious Director says homophobia rampant in black community
--USA: Tyler Clementi's mom offers wisdom to Leelah Alcorn's parents
--USA: Bill Maher asks if we've reached the "final frontier" on LGBT rights
--USA: 20/20 features transgender parents
--USA: Rachael Maddow discusses Supreme possibilities
--USA: Lisa Keen looks at how the Court asked its questions
--USA: Ruling could give GOP political cover on marriage equality
--Androgynous model Dylan Stephens graces wedding cover
--USA, CA: SDSU transgender harassment case profiled
--USA, LA: What happens next to state's lawsuit?
--ISA, OK: 3200 marriage licenses issued, many along TX border
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--Ireland: Legislature must pass bill before referendum date can be set
--Italy: Milan's mayor may face criminal charges for recognizing same sex weddings
--Sri Lanka: LGBT group hopes new government is friendlier to LGBT rights
--UK: NHS will no longer refer gays and lesbians to "cure" therapy
--UK: Officer comes out publicly as transgender
--UK: First same sex pagan wedding
--USA: Ted Olson took on Tony Perkins on Fox
--USA: Precious Director says homophobia rampant in black community
--USA: Tyler Clementi's mom offers wisdom to Leelah Alcorn's parents
--USA: Bill Maher asks if we've reached the "final frontier" on LGBT rights
--USA: 20/20 features transgender parents
--USA: Rachael Maddow discusses Supreme possibilities
--USA: Lisa Keen looks at how the Court asked its questions
--USA: Ruling could give GOP political cover on marriage equality
--Androgynous model Dylan Stephens graces wedding cover
--USA, CA: SDSU transgender harassment case profiled
--USA, LA: What happens next to state's lawsuit?
--ISA, OK: 3200 marriage licenses issued, many along TX border
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