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https://plus.google.com/107647271147188962866 MegaMom's Wisdom : Infant #Anger Management is attachment-parenting friendly (not extreme attachment #parenting). It produces...
Infant #Anger Management is attachment-parenting friendly (not extreme attachment #parenting). It produces patient #kids.
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https://plus.google.com/116933437212180206946 Debra Schoenberger iRead Book Tours : Baby Comes Home - review, author interview and giveaway - by Dr. Paul Roumeliotis "I practiced attachment...
Baby Comes Home - review, author interview and giveaway - by Dr. Paul Roumeliotis

"I practiced attachment parenting with my children and Dr. Paul's "science of TLC" truly appealed to me."
Baby Comes Home by Dr. Paul Roumeliotis (Review, Interview and Giveaway!)
Baby Comes Home: A Parent's Guide to a Healthy and Well First Eighteen Months by Dr. Paul Roumeliotis Influence Publishing ISBN: 978-1771410724 Published Nov 1, 2014 Trade Paperback, 400 pages Our Review Reviewed by Laura and...
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https://plus.google.com/116984622213465982152 Wachanga : Top 7 Parenting Styles Do you know the difference between attachment and tiger parenting? The field...
Top 7 Parenting Styles

Do you know the difference between attachment and tiger parenting? The field of parenting is full of theories, here are the top 7.

Attachment Parenting
In attachment parenting your baby's needs are put above everyone else. Physical bonding, like carrying your baby in a sling rather than using a pram, feeding on demand, never leaving your baby to cry and co-sleeping are all part of this style of parenting. The goal is to look for cues to understand when your baby needs to sleep, eat or play.


Baby-wise Parenting
Popularised in the UK by Gina Ford, babywise is parent-led parenting. The needs of the baby are understood and imposed by the parent. Sort of the opposite of attachment parenting, a strict schedule is developed and adhered to. The idea is that babies like routine and will fall into sleeping through the night quite early on.

Free Range
Free range parents entrust their children to walk to school, ride bikes and go outside unsupervised. Their view is that the world is safe and danger and worry is stifling. The idea is to prepare the child for the real world instead of sheltering.

Helicopter Parenting
Helicopter Parenting, also known as hyper-parenting rarely let their children out of sight. The intention is to preserve their childhood, keeping them out of harms way.

Minimalist Parenting
Minimalist parenting is about doing less and enjoying family time more by living authentically. This kind of parenting is the opposite of the families that enrol their kids in eight classes a week. It's about encouraging children to play and relax.

No Rescue Parenting
This type of parenting means allowing kids to make mistakes even when a parent could have helped. It gives the children space to figure out their actions and consequences. This has been recommended as a way of teaching your child the importance of personal responsibility.

Tiger Parenting
Tiger Parents believe that their children are capable of great things and set very high expectations. They are strict and may demand academic excellence. By parenting through fear and respect they believe they will get the best abilities out of their children.
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https://plus.google.com/103014115941067191942 SWFL Naturally : Those of you who practice Attachment Parenting already do this: Baby cries, you fill the need. But did...
Those of you who practice Attachment Parenting already do this: Baby cries, you fill the need. But did you ever think about WHY babies cry, or go to angry cry, or "play dead" aka Cry it Out? I'll bet most people never thought of CIO that way- playing dead. This isn't just about babies... the truth is the way your parents responded to your crying actually set the pattern for how you deal with stress- negotiate your way out of it, fight/run, or physically and emotionally shut down.

"Enhancing Our Babies' Innate Expression" Pathways Connect SWFL is going to discuss how to re-program your stress response and talk about how to help your children with theirs THIS Friday 2/20 at 6 pm
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Join us as we gather to discuss Jeanne Ohm, D.C.'s article "Enhancing our Babies' Innate Expression" in the new Pathways to Family Wellness Issue 44. There's a conversation going on about the 'cry it out' technique with babies, a recent scientific discovery suggests that the technique may have ...
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https://plus.google.com/108834888819462063137 Lynda Mastronardo : Those of you who practice Attachment Parenting already do this: Baby cries, you fill the need. But did...
Those of you who practice Attachment Parenting already do this: Baby cries, you fill the need. But did you ever think about WHY babies cry, or go to angry cry, or "play dead" aka Cry it Out? I'll bet most people never thought of CIO that way- playing dead. This isn't just about babies... the truth is the way your parents responded to your crying actually set the pattern for how you deal with stress- negotiate your way out of it, fight/run, or physically and emotionally shut down.

"Enhancing Our Babies' Innate Expression" Pathways Connect SWFL is going to discuss how to re-program your stress response and talk about how to help your children with theirs THIS Friday 2/20 at 6 pm
Pathways Connect Meeting! "Enhancing Our Babies' Innate Expression" | Facebook
Join us as we gather to discuss Jeanne Ohm, D.C.'s article "Enhancing our Babies' Innate Expression" in the new Pathways to Family Wellness Issue 44. There's a conversation going on about the 'cry it out' technique with babies, a recent scientific discovery suggests that the technique may have ...
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https://plus.google.com/104280841843661443021 WishExpress : The ins and outs of attachment #parenting: http://ow.ly/Jd9dC via @tennessean #wishes
The ins and outs of attachment #parenting: http://ow.ly/Jd9dC via @tennessean #wishes
The ins and outs of attachment parenting
Understanding attachment parenting, and where to find like-minded parents in Nashville.
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https://plus.google.com/107937264721031355622 Vimala McClure : Dr. William Sears coined the term Attachment Parenting (AP), which places emphasis on the natural, biological...
Dr. William Sears coined the term Attachment Parenting (AP), which places emphasis on the natural, biological instincts of mothers and fathers and is a style of parenting that focuses on the attachment between parent and child. It promotes the use of responsive, nurturing and empathetic parenting methods as a means to create strong emotional bonds that have long-lasting benefits to child and parent alike.
The ins and outs of attachment parenting
Understanding attachment parenting, and where to find like-minded parents in Nashville.
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https://plus.google.com/117316840250158443633 Kids on the Coast/Kids in the City Magazine : Want to know more about attachment parenting? The Association of Attachment Parenting claims AP makes...
Want to know more about attachment parenting? The Association of Attachment Parenting claims AP makes parenting easier. Do you use Attachment Parenting methods? #kotc
Attachment Parenting
Did you see the May 21, 2012 TIME magazine cover photograph of a young mother, standing, her top pulled down to the side, while she breastfed her Four-year-old son standing on a chair next to her?
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https://plus.google.com/114943918695557201523 Children’s Physicians Medical Group : Discipline is not meant to punish our children when they do something wrong, it's meant to help our ...
Discipline is not meant to punish our children when they do something wrong, it's meant to help our children develop self control and self discipline for themselves. This can be done in a loving, compassionate and empathetic way that strengthens the connection we have with our little ones instead of hurting it. http://bit.ly/1BuRTLu

Practice Positive Discipline | Attachment Parenting International
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https://plus.google.com/108772966373643405647 Parentdish.co.uk : Mother 'Hood' video brings 'parenting wars' to life: http://aol.it/15UK3Sw Breast or bottle? Co-sleeping...
Mother 'Hood' video brings 'parenting wars' to life: http://aol.it/15UK3Sw

Breast or bottle? Co-sleeping or cot? Attachment parenting or controlled crying? Parenting is fraught with opposing theories about the best way to raise a child - and sometimes, it really can feel like a war.

+Rebecca Gillie 
Watch the video: The Mother ‘Hood Official Video
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There’s something going down on the playground. Don’t they know that everyone has their own way of parenting? But when it comes down to it, we’re all on the ...
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https://plus.google.com/115930860033642190326 Our Small Hours : Oh, Attachment Parenting.  What does it even mean?  I think there is a lot of misinformation about what...
Oh, Attachment Parenting.  What does it even mean?  I think there is a lot of misinformation about what AP really is and how it works.  Check out my post about #attachmentparenting  to find what what it is and, most importantly, what it isn't!   #parenting   #baby  
What is Attachment Parenting? • Our Small Hours
What is attachment parenting? Find out what attachment is and what it is not.
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https://plus.google.com/106112197037779897368 Denise Mi'chelle Leone : Gentle Parenting / Attachment Parenting We believe that children especially children 4 and under need...
Gentle Parenting / Attachment Parenting
   We believe that children especially children
4 and under need to be with their parents, mainly the mother. All over
history and all over the world children are and were with their mothers
until about the age of 5. Only recently has the it become stran...
Gentle Parenting / Attachment Parenting
   We believe that children especially children 4 and under need to be with their parents, mainly the mother. All over history and all over the world children are and were with their mothers until about the age of 5. Only rec...
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https://plus.google.com/117274743677690590864 Emotional Flow :  : Session Two: "Have You Found Support for Your Empathic Nature?" -From Karla : Emotional Flow Moderator...
 : Session Two: "Have You Found Support for Your Empathic Nature?" -From Karla
: Emotional Flow Moderator Mar 19, 2012
If you feel comfortable sharing from your journaling in Session One, will you tell us in a few sentences areas in which you have been welcomed and supported as an empath?
 
: Beverly452 Mar 19, 2012
"...tell us in a few sentences areas in which you have been welcomed and supported as an empath?"

Nowhere! The world is run by extraverted, emotionally unaware people! :-)

I get my energy as an empath from the work of certain writers who I regard as empaths. They help me realize that I am not the only one who "overfeels." The kind of emotional intensity and awareness that I have is a gift that can be dangerous. Being an empath has gotten me into a lot of trouble in the past. In my case, psychotherapy and medication did not help. Advice from friends and family also did not help.  What does help is having clarity about myself and my place in the world.
 
: Sarah Mar 20, 2012
I have found support at my yoga studio and especially from my teacher.  I have a friend who works in massage and colour therapy. With her I feel I can be completely honest and open, that it is safe. My sister is as sensitive as me but our relationship is pretty firey, so I wouldn't count it as support!!!  But as we get older we are learning communicate better :o)

This makes me realise that in most of my time interacting with the world that I feel like I have to hide my true nature and that I am putting a lot of energy into presenting "normal". No wonder I feel exhausted most of the time and seek out solitude to recharge!?

: Helen Bird Mar 20, 2012
" ... tell us in a few sentences areas in which you have been welcomed and supported as an empath?"

I am welcomed and supported by my massage clients, they just love the way my hands automatically go to the places on/in their bodies that have been frozen out of what you refer to as their internal community. I know that I am able to give my clients much more than a 'good rub'. In the silence of my therapy room, volumes are spoken ... - this is mostly, however, a one way street due to the imbalance of power and rank of the therapist/client relationship.

My animals love, welcome and support me, also in a non-verbal way. So does being in nature, which is always rejuvenating and affirming.

So far so good, but also so lonely too, as there are not many people who are able to converse honestly about emotions. I have been telling everyone I know about your work and although it clearly intrigues them, it scares the pants off them too!

: Karla McLaren Mar 20, 2012
When I was a little girl, I found support with animals and in art and solitude. People, not so much. Sometimes, my Mom could help me try to understand the emotive and empathic world, but she was ill, and raising four other intense children, so our time together was limited.

As I grew up, art and music were definitely my refuges, and they still are. Singing and writing especially -- because both allowed me to express emotions through art, and understand them through art. Art and music were literal lifesavers for me.

Eventually, I learned to identify other empaths as I grew up, and I have had very close friends who totally get me. Animals still nearly always welcome me, and after two really bad marriages (where I performed emotion translation and management skills for my husbands) I learned to look for a mate who is emotionally aware and empathic. So now I live with my best friend who is an empath and also my husband. The third time is the charm!!

And of course, with emotions and with my five empathic skills, I create a renewable welcoming process for my emotive and empathic self every day. When I lose my way and feel lost or out of place in our primarily nonempathic culture, I restore my thresholds and focus on the reality of my emotions and my empathic awareness.

And of course, my work as an empath, my books, and this course help me articulate my empathic and emotive information. This means that, now, YOU are a part of welcoming me as an empath. Thank you for supporting my work in the world. You rock!
 
: prb86 Mar 21, 2012
I first realized the possibility that I was an empath when I watched a Star Trek episode about a female empath.  I did not have access to anyone ( except my spouse on occasion) who could accept the level of sensitivity I displayed.  My life skills to deal with my sensitivity were solitude and sleeping.  As I got older I moved into addictions when these skills were no longer effective.  Fortunately for me I was guided to a recovery community and a particular home group that "felt".  Over time I was able to allow this part of me to flow again. As of May 10th I will have been at this for 22 of my 68 eight years... thus my interest in emotional flow.
 
: lgj Mar 22, 2012
I have found support in therapy.  In addition, certain authors who I love like Pema Chodron, Judith Orloff, Martha Beck and Karla McLaren:) are also very supportive of my nature. I have found a community of friends who are empaths as well and understand my empathic nature.
 
: Temmie512 Mar 22, 2012
Oh.  I see.  ("In a few sentences ...")  I feel welcomed and supported in nature, and with animals.  I garden.  I'm a former horse trainer (now old and beaten up by a few injuries).  I feel supported by singing, playing piano, and writing.  Children are open and responsive to me.  I am able to make immediate and lasting relationships with children, but am generally alone.  I have few local friends.  I live with my cat.

: Janice11 Mar 22, 2012
I have support mostly from my animal companions (dogs) and nature. I do have a few friends who support me regarding emotions and the degree of sensitivity that I have...I used to have a wall up around me and didn't feel much emotion until I sat with a meditation group for 7 years and the walls were broken down. I have said recently that now I can't turn the emotions off or stop feeling them and I am tremendously grateful to have this course to help me navigate what the emotions are...tools! Imagine that, they are useful afterall, thank you Spirit! I am so looking forward to this course and using all the tools to help myself and being able to help others. Thank you Karla for what you went through in your life, to develop this great work to touch the lives of so many other people! You R-O-C-K ! ;)
 
: Mary Ann Mar 22, 2012
Mostly I have found support in therapy, with a therapeutic movement mentor I studied with.  A few friends and as a child, my mother whom suffered from PTSD, was "sympathetic", but also overwhelmed by my emotions.  My dogs too.  Children- they always understand.  I have 3 grandchildren.  My spouse, when he is able to not feel threatened by my emotions/ and that has at least half to do with how I express them.

In the general world, however, I find a LOT of Fear, Defensiveness and Reactivity .  If I am expressing through poetry, or a form where the emotion is generalized or universalized in some way, the expression can even evoke praise.  One thing that I am really frustrated with, is that there are a LOT of systems of practices:  Eastern Religion: Yoga, Meditation, Body-centered therapies: innumerable systems of thought that teach how to approach our emotions and "work" with them, but in rigidly defined - from the outside of the emotions -ways.  there seems to be an inauthenticity to them all somehow.  A way of continuing a basic distrust of the emotional part of our humanness. 

Your work makes sense to me.  That's why I am here, and why I brought your book!  The live session was Great!  thank you Karla
 
: Karla McLaren Mar 22, 2012
Thank you for your replies!
Karla
 
: Mary Ann Mar 23, 2012 08:58
I am frustrated as my two posts were both labeled as Spam and took over many hours to be posted.  I wrote one just an hour after our Live sessyun and wanted to have it  posted right  away!  Please let me know what I can do on my end if anything?  Was disappointed to look this am and have it still not posted.  Thank You.  Mary Ann
 
: Mary Ann Mar 23, 2012 12:00
 I really enjoyed the Live session last night and found so much clarified and deepened through the questions and your responses, Karla.  Thank you All. 

I have found support for my empathic nature, as a hearing impaired child (from age 2 1/2) from my mother , but whom because of her illness and PTSD from childhood, was also panicked  and overwhelmed by my and other's emotions.  All the adults were suffering in varying degrees from PTSD from their childhoods combined with adult stresses, so indeed I WAS OVERWHELMED by the chaotic over-stimulation because of my sensitive and empathic human nature!  My hearing loss stemmed from the illnesses caused by this overwhelm to my whole system!
 I being the youngest and only girl with two older brothers, became my Mother's empathic caretaker.  By sensing and caring for her needs- in the ways I expressed my needs and emotions, I kept "my world" more stable and less overwhelming.  She would also care for me in ways that she understood, not necessarily in the ways I needed.

As an adult, my cats and a couple of friends, my current therapist, and a friend -mentor in therapeutic movement have affirmed and listened unconditionally to my emotional expressions and dreams generously.
  My husband and my adult son when they have the inner capacity to not be threatened or are themselves overwhelmed by their own emotions being triggered in their lives @ work and in their extended families.  I feel pretty alone now, as most of my experiences with others, even in therapy or 12-step groups are that most people are threatened by their own emotions, let alone mine.   
I am distancing myself from old friends as one is ill and refusing outside "her own mind"treatment-crazy.   I experience in general, that your work, along with the work on Attachment Parenting (Attachment Parenting International) and fostering healthy relationships in Families - in which the learning of
Empathy is the core skill taught-  Is greatly needed in our World.   Also Bruce Perry's research about childhood trauma and it's treatment is again focused on empathy and work with art , music and movement -- the integration of all the Intelligences. 
It is a pleasure to connect with such insightful and aware people here!  

: eBarbara Mar 27, 2012
Hi Everyone,
I find support for my empathic nature from my pets (dogs) and outdoors (lots of long walks, gardening, reading outside), physical activity (exercise, biking, walking), counseling (really like my therapist), and satisfying my curiosity (taking classes). I am so introverted I have not yet found friend/s to hang out with - I long for that and gotta yearning for creativity by taking piano lessons or knitting, etc.
I feel overwhelmed with all the information to integrate. Emotional flow? How about emotional tsunami!
 
: Karla McLaren Mar 27, 2012 09:46
Hello eBarbara, and welcome!

Thanks for posting, and be kind to yourself about the amount of material in here. You can download this material and learn it over a period of years if you like!

I know I did!

Karla
 
: Susan459 Apr 01, 2012
I have found some support from the shamanic circles I have attended.  Also I have a great therapist that I have worked with for two years.  And I have received validation and help from my astrologer, who first pointed out this "gift" to me.

I have worked my whole career in sales which always seemed odd to me.  I thought I was shy (because my family members are all shy) so I only began this career when my first company where I stareted as a chemist offered me the job (25 years ago!).  But now I see that my empathic nature helps me to connect with my customers.
 
: joannie Apr 09, 2012
Looks like several of us find support from animals we are closely connected with, Nature, and close circles with others of similar interest or experience. I would agree that I find support from my pets and in Nature, walking barefoot and connecting with the land.
I have support in music as well.
 
: altodoc Oct 10, 2012
I've found support for my empathic nature with a few very close friends. It's be so helpful to be open and discuss the issues with them directly.  My best friend and I have become even closer by discussing the empathic skills and emotions. 
I've also found support during ADHD therapy as many of the skills are in line with ideas she (my therapist) has been working on with me for months. The descriptions here spoke to me and I've been making good progress.
 
: Trish Nov 16, 2012
Yes after taking a group course people saw me at a deeper emotional level - I think they sympathize more than empathize
but they're learning more about me as 5 of us have chosen to stay friends for 1.5 years so far.  We meet a few times a month
at a lounge really support one another.  My sister (same household) is on a similar path trying to heal the same issues, she's been
wonderful support.  I've always been honest in showing my emotions even though I didn't like their appearance, my late husband
absolutely my rock, never tired or helping me through, and my children now all young adults in their 20s have been witnesses-
they are completely supportive and understanding-I've talked to them a lot about the "why" of me.  But I haven't been there for
them because I wasn't strong enough and often so engaged with my own "stuff" or "grief".  They saw I had so much of my own they
didn't want to burden me with theirs.  I try to make it up to them and NOW with these tools and books I can do so much more.
My children are all empathic in varying degrees, my son, the oldest closer to how I am - so we have fabulous talks! He's very interested
in healing for us both, we say we're doing our part to help heal the planet. 
 
: AJ Feb 25, 2013
I have found many people lean on me for support and love my ability to help them feel better, but very few who have supported me. I worked in a profession where clients needed someone to care about their emotions but the system sees emotions as irrelevant and anyone who practices a little differently as a threat. I had only incompetent skills to protect and rejuvenate myself. I fell into a deep major depression.

I need time in nature, my dog has the best barometer of my emotional state. 
 
: Susan Jun 07, 2013
walking in nature, going off in my camper, my friends, reading, myself sometimes, these all support me, going within to communicate with wounded parts of me that is the most supportive - me supporting me! and then getting feedback from the outside such as suddenly coming across Karla's book, those things always help me feel i'm heading in the right direction and being supported from something bigger than myself such as God or a higher part of me.
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"The Mum Complex" - Thrilled to see @dseeland's write-up of Mother Plastic on @sternde Weitwinkel blog yesterday. 

A few words about the project:  I have two young children, two boys aged 5 months and 3 years, and I suppose the Sugar Mama and Mother Mary images are particularly informed by that.  I hadn't necessarily thought of it that way until I described my idea for Mother Mary to a friend and she responded with, “Wow, that's an interesting representation of your experience of motherhood, Erika.” And it occurred to me that she was right.  There's so much pressure on women to be perfect mothers – and among a certain subset to be perfectly “natural” mothers – along with all the other pressures to be “naturally” beautiful, to be successful in our careers, to be good homemakers and cooks and wives and bombshells, etc that in the end I wanted to poke fun at that stereotype just like all the others.  In my case, with my first child, I tried to follow a course of natural parenting as closely as possible; I had a home birth, used cloth nappies, did attachment parenting (baby carrier, co-sleeping, breastfeeding), made my own organic baby food, stocked up on wooden toys, swore off television and access to technology etc etc, all of this while starting and running my photography business at the same time – and to be honest, even though I'm glad we chose to do all of that, I still often felt as if it wasn't enough. I don't know if other mums truly were judging me or this was just the result of my own insecurities.  Because what happened is that all my ideals about natural parenting eventually smacked up against the hard edges of reality and a massive level of exhaustion (as it's all fantastically time-consuming), and eventually it all became too much and, despite our initial objections, we ended up with a house of full cheap plastic Chinese crap, disposable nappies, store-bought baby food, baby formula to supplement the breast milk, occasional sugary snacks, ice cream bribes and a dedicated iPad for our older child.  It was after all this started to change that I did feel especially as if I were failing in the competitive mothering arena, while other mums had managed to keep up that level of natural parenting much longer than I had and maintained quite strict adherence to all of those standards, some quite pedantically. I found myself showing up at playgroups with a store-bought cheese sandwich for Oliver that I'd bought in a rush on our way out the door while everyone else had something like organic homemade roasted vegetable couscous full of produce hand-grown and harvested from their own allotments, and well, I wasn't winning any parenting awards among that crowd. In any case, everyone takes it all so terribly seriously, and while parenting is obviously quite a serious and important endeavour, I think we've  really just got to keep a sense of humour about it. One part of motherhood that I wasn't at all prepared for was the real loss of a sense of self, the total subsuming of my own identity and needs and desires to this new role as mum, and I spent some time mourning for the loss of my old life and the old me.  The Sugar Mama and Mother Mary, in particular, are me rebelling against all that a bit, satirising myself and a social ideal of motherhood that I found impossible to sustain unless I were going to quit work altogether.  

Once again I owe big fat huge thanks to all the people that helped make the project possible - Dade Freeman, Dumpster Design, Black Eye Hair, Charlene Howells Make-Up Artist, Jacqueline Damelle, Frankie Kent, Beksies Boutique, RockCakes Jewellery, Katya Vezzadini, Flutterby Bakery.

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Sowas nennt sich Mutter / The Mum complex - Weitwinkel
Wer hasst sie nicht, diese Supermütter mit ihren Hausgeburten und selbstgestrickten Ökowindeln? Erika Szostak fotografiert witzig-bunte Mutter-Klischees.
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